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Guidelines soft skills vs be myself

 
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Hi John,

Im a software developer interested in understand the way soft skils work in the market and improve them. I am a quiet person,
when I work I am always polite and reliable.

Im interested in culture, minoritary sports like Aikido, the nature, etc. But most of my colleages are much more interested in
soccer, drink beers, etc.

The thing is that at some projects in which I have worked, when I am with them I seem like that I am in my own world,
not connecting well with them. I know that I should go out more often with them
to the pubs but I am so busy that I only go the social activities when it is mandatory by the company.

The truth is that at the moment I work for myself, and I feel much better.

Of course, I also need to manage my coworkers now, no managers but clients and partners.

I am interested in improve my soft skills as employee and as colleage(CEO).... Sometimes I ask myself if I was not behaving right at
some of the companies in which I got less satisfaction after working there or I just was at places where there were not space for
my personality, which I find low standard behaviour for a company which pretend get ideas from their employees.

Do you think is a situation which is common? Should I think that I am a type of professional who needs to set my own goal and projects
instead of working for others?

Do you think that there is a "good" professional and a "bad" one. I mean, are soft skills a standard for everybody and there is a guideline
to follow or it is all much more intuitive?

Congrats for the book!!

Regards,
Isaac
 
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Hey Isaac,

Great questions.

I like to think of it this way. I am on a path for continuous self-improvement.
I wanted to write a book for others that are on that path.

I'm a big advocate of going the road less traveled. I think the greatest rewards and satisfaction are found there.

Soft skills are a lot of different things and they will mean different things and have different values to different people.

It's not about drinking beers at the pub or liking what other people like, but more about learning how to connect and deal with people primarily by being a person who provided value to others.

As far as a good or bad professional. I think it depends on perspective.
There are definitely universal principles that apply to human interaction and to the world in general, but there are many different situations--so, guidelines have to apply.

I guess what I am saying is, there are basic core things that don't change, but how you apply them from situation to situation does.

I suppose this is the difference between wisdom and knowledge.

I value wisdom much more highly.
 
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