There's a Catch-22 anytime you attempt to break into an IT field. They only want to hire experienced people and the only way to get experience is to get hired.
I had this problem long years ago and it really annoyed me. It never goes away either, and won't, since even after you have experience, you find yourself dealing with people who want 5 years
Oracle experience or 5 years
WebSphere experience or...
Mind you, this is was a problem even when people were advertising software positions. I think it's been about 3 years since I've seen the local newspaper advertise for anything other than network tech, web page designer or back-office Visual Basic, so I don't envy you.
Then again, I spent over 2 years unemplyed recently, so I don't envy
me all that much either.
The secret of how to be miserable is to constantly expect things are going to happen the way that they are "supposed" to happen.
You can have faith, which carries the understanding that you may be disappointed. Then there's being a willfully-blind idiot, which virtually guarantees it.