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Was in a non-hands on J2ee job. People thought I knew more than I did. Survived through sincerity rather than real skill. But surely loved the technology. Shifted compmany and accidentally found myself in a new technology/platform. "Accident" was not mine, they just forced me into a new technology - senior role."Missed" my old tehcnology and though the new job is a much sort after job - requires aggressive negotiation, resourcefullness, lots of hours of work in quickly shifting priorities and situations.Am willing to do all this provided I get the feel of a prefessional, caring organization. But I don;t. I cannot stomach some of the stands I am expected to take in front of clients and my team because of the company constraints. I don;t even know wnough of the technology as I did earlier so I feel like I am swimming in a shark infested river. Miss my previous company and technology. No opportunity there and found a job in a small company. In my old technology - and with the right amount of responsibility. But am scared to move. What a come down! From a most sort after orgn to a place no one heard of.... Looks decent by the face of it - but what if it winds up in a year or two. How do I explain going forward why I joined that company - were I to change.. What if they are not only small - but small and mean - since they don;t have anythingto lose anyway... Want to shift but can't bear to see the look of concern on my spuse's face and also fear the looks people I know will give me when they know.... Real question - the return back to my technology gives a warm feeling of comfort, the small company makes me feel they would be more caring .... But again.... Know what I mean? Please help me. My current company is so aggressive - it may lay off 'people who crib' like me.
 
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If you dread going to work everyday, it's no way to live.
 
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Wow, that was one long paragraph... but from what I can gather...

You are currently in a high pressure, very high profile, very technical, hands-on, position and feel overwhelmed. You missed your previous low pressure, hands-off, but you were highly regarded position. So you now found another low pressure position, but don't know if you should take it as your friends and family will know that you couldn't take the pressure. Right?


I can't answer what you should do, but I can say this. My friends and family wouldn't think any less of me, if I quit my current job and spent a year beachcombing. Heck my wife would probably be my assistant...

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Hi Girish

If you feel that a change is imminent then face it. It is easier to search for a new job while you are already in a job. Don't worry about other people. Have a frank talk with your wife and explain your situation to her. Don't panic. Have patience. Have confidence in yourself.

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Hi
I would say you stay in current job and start looking out for suitable opportunities outside. Dont go for anything lesser than current profile.
Looks like these are tougher times.. Most of the times they are the passing phase.

While staying in current place try to play safe..ie. Be diplomatic in difficult situations..
Take decisions collectively with upper mgmt..So that you are not the only person to blame if something goes wrong..
Try learning that new technology. if this is not feasible immediately then find someone good technical junior staff and consult him whenever needed..
Try to learn skills necessary for this job ie aggressive negotiation, resourcefullness etc. Sometimes there is a great opportunity admidst gread adversity..


Hope this helps..
 
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Girish

Let me add that you are not alone. Every human being comes across a difficult situation during one's life time. It is a trying period and you must exercise patience. There are times when people are pushed into positions where there is steep learning curve. Different people have varying amounts of learning ability. Some people learn fast and yet some people learn slow. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Work on your self esteem. Have an optimistic outlook. Make a list of what you can do and can't do in the current job and have a frank discussion with your manager, peers, friends or family. See what is that you need to do the tasks that you can't do today. Your peers, colleagues or manager may have a suggestion for you. I know of a friend of mine who was in a similar situation like yours. He was constantly criticized by his colleagues for non-performance. He was in that position for 18 months. He tried to work hard to demonstrate his sincerity to his coworkers. It didn't work. They didn't acknowledge his hard work. The professional world acknowledges and appreciates only specialization and not necessarily hard work or sincerity. He subsequently moved to a familiar technology within his organization. He has been working in that position for last four months. He is feeling much better now that he is in comfortable and stable position.

Have a close look at Newton's first law of motion. The behavior of all objects can be described by saying that objects tend to "keep on doing what they're doing" (unless acted upon by an unbalanced force). The state of motion of an object is maintained as long as the object is not acted upon by an unbalanced force. All objects resist changes in their state of motion - they tend to "keep on doing what they're doing." This is called inertia (resisting changes in your state of motion).

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Ravi
[ July 09, 2007: Message edited by: ravindra janapreddy ]
 
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