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One of my friend said to me:"John, you are impossible. Your opinions have a slap in them for everyone who differs with you. Thay have become so expensive nobody cares for them. Your friends find they enjoy themselves better when you are not around." Only then did I relize I've been a introvert and shy person who need a complete personality overhaul.
 
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John -
There's nothing wrong with being introverted or shy. Some of the world's great thinkers have been considered "introverts". Many people here at the ranch have come to regard you as the local sage Personally, I have to admit it can be a challenge sometimes to decipher the meaning of some of your posts, but they often seem to spark interesting threads.
It is important to respect other people's opinions, and sometimes there is a tendency to dig one's heels in and "win" the argument. But I don't think a complete personality overhaul is in order. Just try to place yourself in the other person's shoes and ask yourself if you're showing them the same respect you would want to be shown.
Just an opinion from a fellow introvert.
 
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If I get poked in the eye every time I share my opinion, I'm likely to seek someone else to hang around with.
People want to feel like you respect them for who they are and respect their right to their own opinion, without fear of judgement from their friends.
It's not a personality over-haul, it's a behaviour modification. I am an opinionated person, myself.
If something may offend or hurt someone's feelings, ask yourself... "is my opinion worth hurting a friend over?" or..."is there a better way to put this" or (something most people do not do)... "is this better left unsaid"
my $0.025
 
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