Originally posted by Stevie Kaligis:
golf probably one of the best therapy to control your emotions, you should try it
Originally posted by Nanhesru Ningyake:
That reminds me of a joke:
Doctor, to patient: No, you don't have an inferiority complex, you are inferior.
Originally posted by David O'Meara:
I don't believe in golf
Originally posted by Jan Bolinger:
You are reading words from one who was the best at having an inferiority complex. Began really early in life. Compounded year upon year. I have a real stubborn spirit which made me be a fighter even when I did not feel like fighting (not literal, just dug my heals in and would not give up). More times than not, I wanted to just fall through the cracks in the floor and melt away. I came across as one totally sure of herself. Few people knew my true feelings I had about my self. I think most of us are that way and it has helped me as friends have shared their same feelings. My emotions controlled all my decisions. If I felt good about something I did it, if I was angry, I reacted, If I was happy, it was great, if I was sad, I was lonely and disgusted with life.
I asked Jesus Christ to forgive me of my sins and come into my life. A simple act. An act of faith. He did come into my life. Struggles still come, emotions are still a very real part of me but "knowing I am accepted in the Beloved" (Ephesians 1:6b)allows me to feel that I have worth. We are encouraged to "be no more children, tossed to and fro, and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the sleight of men, and cunning cratiness, whereby they lie in wait to deceive: but speaking truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ: (Ephesians 4: 14-continue reading; I did not type it on out) Philippians 3:13 says for us to "forget those things which are behind and reaching forth into those things which are before, press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus." (Please look up and read, I did not type word for word.) People love to remind us of our failures in life, it makes them feel somehow safe and better as one of the other ranch hands stated earlier. If we practice forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward in life, it does make it easier to be positive and feel more worth.
Thinking about our past failures tend to bring back all the feelings and emotions we had at that moment. I have heard it said that "Whatever is first place in your life, you will perpetuate it." Try not to allow feelings of inferiority or superiority to be first place in your life. I encourage you to allow God, through Jesus to be first place in your life.
I am not trying to preach, just share a tid bit of my journey. Being a very emotional person, it has been difficult to allow God to help me make choices and decisions based on what is right and good, not on how I feel. That was a tuffy.
We also get caught in a trap. If our emotions range from a one to a ten and because of whatever type of anxiety or fear or feelings of inadequacy hits us, our emotions go from one straight to a ten. If several things happen in a row, our emotions begin to float from a ten and make it down to a seven then we get hit with something emotional again, we go straight to ten. When this happens, we get stuck between 7 and 10 and our emotions never get back down to a range of 1 or 2 or 3, etc. Man, this is when heavy stress hits and we feel overwhelmed. I have been there, I know where of I speak.
I am thankful for this forum. I am thankful we have the freedom to express ourselves and the freedom each of us have to choose to read or ignore each entry. I have written this to encourage you. Believe me, I have plenty of people still encouraging me and I do need it. We all need encouragement to be our best.
[This message has been edited by Jan Bolinger (edited November 02, 2001).]
what Karen Horney called "False Self"