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question for women only

 
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is there any chance the girl/woman i drool over in class might see me as distinguished rather than old? or do you think she would call me a dirty old man if she knew? im thinking 1% chance.
maybe i should change my signature to read "cant read body language"
i think women are much better at that than us guys. also im pretty obvious. i think she figured it out. if she still sits next to me after knowing that does that mean anything?
and what if im older than her parents? would that matter? would her father hate me?
just curious really since i really doubt a beautiful young woman would go for an interesting older guy.
[ April 17, 2002: Message edited by: Randall Twede ]
 
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Who said you're interesting!
[ April 17, 2002: Message edited by: Younes Essouabni ]
 
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Why say that Younes? Do you always have to be confrontational or do you think you are funny? If you meant it as a joke, you see the little faces at the bottom when you post. You need to use them to convey to the reader your intent. Remember when writing, the reader cannot pick up tone of voice or facial expressions. All of these would have worked. :roll:
 
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Randall!
Hmm thought about this for a bit. Don't put yourself down too much, I personally have always been attracted to older men. Admitedly non of them have been older than my parents but they are a lot older than most parents of people my age (38 years older than me) so that would be a bit weird. I tend to me more partial to those 15-25 years older. So if that's your situation then it's not impossible that she could be attracted to you.
Body language and other signals to look out for:
When she talks to you, look into her eyes, does she look back? - Yes means she likes you and is trying to make contact. No means you make her nervous ... now that could just be because she likes you too and is afraid of being too obvious so don't use this alone.
Also if you're particualrly observant, a person's pupils dilate when they are looking at someone they are attracted too .. but that's hard to spot!
When she talks to you does she lean towards you?
Does she fidget with her hair or a piece of jewellry when she talks to you?
Does she smile / giggle a lot when she talks to you?
Does she touch you? Just a tap on the arm or any other small kind of physical contact?
Yes to 2 or more of these means she may well be attracted to you. She may just like you a lot though and feel comfortable with you, which is as good a starting point as any.
If you're fairly certain she knows you like her then why not ask her out for a drink ... then you'll know for sure!
Good Luck
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Originally posted by Angela Poynton:

Does she smile / giggle a lot when she talks to you?


If she giggles incessantly start running now and dont ever look back -
Actually, if you in any way think she might be attracted to you then, like Angela said, ask her out for a drink (if she's old enough to) or ask her if she wants to get together to study.
 
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I have edited my post, so my intentions won't be misunderstood!
Sorry Randall if it wasn't funny, it was intended to be!
Hey Angela you're really prompt to use your new Evil Spell. At least Paul gave me a chance.
I am not that bad
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OK ... fair enough .. then I've edited my post too!!
 
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i should stay off the boards when ive been drinking. i guess i said interesting because the sentence needed an adjective there
thanks for the tips angela
 
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is it true that magzine for Females are read more by male?
 
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Originally posted by Ravish Kumar:
is it true that magzine for Females are read more by male?


True or not, I don't think guys would admit to it!
Hema
 
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You mean like Cosmo. Guys just look at the cover
 
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Originally posted by Paul Stevens:
You mean like Cosmo. Guys just look at the cover


And the Problem psages and the horoscopes in my experience.
 
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Hey Randall
Now that you've started this you have to let us know how it turns out to satisfy our voyeristic tendancys.
 
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about all i can say is although we can sit anywhere we want in the room, we sit next to each other. it probly just means she conciders me harmless
god i love being back in school though!
 
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I don't get women (yes yes I know, take a number)
When your in jr. high, they want a high schooler.
When your in high school, they want college guy.
When your in college, they want the professor, or at least a guy with a job.
When you get out of college and get a job, they wish you looked the way you did in high school.
Randall-> Don't worry man. My Father is 50 years old.
He's 50, retired, and only works two days a week delivering bread just so he can have extra money.
Yet, with these "low" standards, he gets hit on by women from age 19 - 45.
How you ask? His total charm and lack of give-a-crapness.
He talks to any and all women, no matter if they're supermodel or Lunch lady (no offense to the lunch ladies out there. I love your hamburgers)
So all you have to do is talk to this girl. Doesn't have to be flirty, doesn't have to be sexy, and don't be cocky. she's probably been through "cocky" too many times. Just talk with her and let her know you exist. Or you can also be like my dad sometimes and just flat out say she looks good today. Girls love that,.. right girls? Not jerk like, just enough to make her think that she looks good enough for you to actually say it.
Girls get too much of hey sexy and your hot, and not enough "hello, how is your day, and you look very nice today"
Hope this helps,
Travis B.
P.S.> I'm not female nor homosexual. I've been around alot of girls and I've picked up pointers.
 
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Randall, exactly how old are you??? You speak as if you're an old man and remember, you're only as old as the woman you feel.
Girls don't know how to "read" the signals either, so perhaps the guys on this ranch could tell us How To Know If A Guy Likes You.
In return, my tip: a girl likes you if she looks at you when you're not looking. But it's really hard, nowdays, 'cause girls never want to look desparate and guys think girls are all self-sufficient and eventually both parties just Don't Do Anything. I say stuff that, love as if there is no tomorrow.
So here's a cool poem I found yesterday (if you recognise it & know who wrote it, please share):
"It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for,
and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.
It doesn’t interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love,
for your dreams, for the adventure of being alive.
It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon.
I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow,
if you have been opened by life’s betrayals or
have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain.
I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own,
without moving to hide it or fade it or fix it.
I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own,
if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful,
to be realistic, to remember the limitations of being human.
It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true.
I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself;
if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul.
I want to know if you can be faithful and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see beauty,
even when it’s not pretty every day,
and if you can source your own life from its presence.
I want to know if you can live with failure, yours or mine,
and still stand on the edge of a lake and shout to the silver of the full moon
“YES!”
It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up after a night of grief and despair,
weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done to feed the children.
It doesn’t interest me who you know or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand still in the centre of the fire with me and not
shrink back.
It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you, from the inside,
when all else falls away.
I want to know if you can be alone with yourself
and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments."

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Another question for women: I've noticed that spring brings out cleavages like tulips... but these women don't want you staring at them. So what's the point?
 
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They want you to admire the package - not fixate on the parts. :roll:
 
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travis and adi,
i see from what you said that wisdom is not age related.
adi,
im 48 soon to be 49. inside i am about 20 though.
nice poem
 
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Anyhting about women here, ya?
 
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so finally question for women got answer form men
I like question- answer section of Women magzine
 
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Originally posted by Adi du Toit:

... a girl likes you if she looks at you when you're not looking.


And you'll know she's doing this how?
 
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I see you got the point.
Ok, ok, another tip: geeky girls tend to be shy so the only way you'll get anywhere is by taking the plunge and asking her out (pretty much all the advise in this forum boils down to that, doesn't it).
Randall, so have you asked her out?
Oh, another point: if you ask her out and she accepts, and she continues to sit next to you in class, that actually means she LIKES you and perhaps you should, if you like her back, at some stage just hold her hand or kind of make it clear that you DO like her. Geeky girls can be quite thick too, and are not always sure after the first date or two if the guy just wants to be friends because he's not DOING anything. Send her flowers, for pete's sake.
Unless, of course, you realise that you don't, in which case you should maybe drop a one-liner in an open conversation about your new girlfriend so that she can continue with her life too.
And if she asks YOU out, let's say, for a dinner party, and you still like her after meeting her dysfunctional friends & cats, you should try asking her over some time too because if you don't, she might either think she has scared you off for good or that you have second thoughts on whether she'll fit into the rest of your life?
Above all, be kind & sensitive. Sometimes people just need to be held.
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