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QA for dating book

 
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Hi,
So, any single guys out there who are wondering where the women are?
I'm about halfway through the first draft of a book that clarifies how to find single women when you just work with guy geeks all day. And what to do once you find'em. (I'm writing this with no contract or publisher. Yet.) It's written for the US/Canada/Northern Europe cultures, more or less, but if it works outside those cultures, that's great too.
I think I've got some good stuff but I'd like to get it road-tested.
Anyone out there want to be part of the dating QA department? I'm looking for guys willing to just take a section and follow the steps. Some of it would just be going to a coffee shop and a grocery store and trying out a few lines; other sections involve a 3-month plan of increased activities in order to meet women and have fun while you're at it.
And if there's already a book like this out there, tell me now. ;>
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Do you want a proof reader?
 
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SH: I think I've got some good stuff but I'd like to get it road-tested.
Ah I see! So this is not going to be a type of the book where the author speaks out straight from his heart based on the lessons learned over the years of personal experince?. It is going to be more of a statistical report; data collected in a survey conducted at the volunteer's expense and presented in the form of literature with a grain of Solveig's salt hmm ?
Just kidding. I like your idea, btw. Wish you had written it before i got married

SH: other sections involve a 3-month plan of increased activities in order to meet women and have fun while you're at it.
And you expect the volunteers to report back to you their personal experiences of their increased activities?
[ January 13, 2003: Message edited by: Melvin Menezes ]
 
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Hi,
>>>...of their increased activities?
Yes! I want a new Sex BLOG forum, here on JavaRanch! ;>
I've given parts of the book to a few guys here in Colorado and their testing is in the works. So far they're pretty pumped about it. I'd like to get more testers and a better geographical dispersion of testers, though.
Re the other questions: the content is from my personal experience, and just insight and inherent analytical, observant, sneaky attitude. ;>
I've checked my opinions with various female friends, and am going to have a big Estrogen Fest with a bunch of former coworkers from
BEA to check out the things I've said, like how Long Leg Briefs are the best underwear ever, and how a gift of a hardcover Winnie the
Pooh or another classic children's book, and subsequent reading aloud thereof in bed, would be really romantic. (Providing she doesn't
already have the book.) I've already gotten one definite positive affirmation on that, plus I liked it when I got it for Christmas.
But as a woman, I have difficulty knowing exactly how it works for men.
I've also got statistical evidence but not en masse, just from various guys, through observation and through them telling me.
For instance. My coauthor Floyd on the SO and OOo books kept a big poster of Chinese letters in his cube. He used to take Chinese and can speak a bit. (He did this Just Because, he's happily married and wasn't looking.) I worked across the aisle from him for years and sooooo many people, including many women, asked him about it and got into interesting conversations with him about it. Now, for this to work it presupposes that you come into contact with *some* women at work or in some outside work activity. But in a big company there's got to be a lot of women walking by your cube who aren't in your department and something interesting will wave'em into your cube. Not another Lord of the Rings poster ;> , mind you, but stuff that appeals to women and/or that they hhaven't seen before.
There is a great deal of power, as well, in having really great chocolate wherever you are. A bowl at work, a bar on the ski lift, etc.
I've also had one "client," more or less, who consulted me through a friend of a friend about his approach to dating. I gave him an Activity Plan, etc., and while it actually seems to be entirely coincidental, he got a girlfriend three weeks later. He had a potluck for people at church and she came over early to help make potatoes (if you know what I mean ;> ).
However, despite my reasonable level of confidence that at least some of it is useful and effective, I've been in software way too long to think that it'll work without a good hard QA. So if anyone is interested in trying some stuff and telling me whether it worked, I'd be delighted.
I have no idea how many of y'all out there would even be interested, but if you are, reply to me at solveig@getopenoffice.org, or post here, or else just do one of the following and let me know how it works.
- Keep a bowl of Godiva or other good chocolate in your cube (If there are women anywhere in the building where you work.)
- Put up a big Russian or Chinese alphabet poster on your hall-facing cube wall (if you can come up with a reason for it to be there, like you took Russian once and are trying to get into it again, or something). Or post something along those lines, big and unusual and interesting. (If there are women anywhere in the building where you work.)
- Sign up for a semester-long evening class at your community college for a language, water colors, pottery, cooking, or something else that doesn't involve computers or engines
- Volunteer for the Humane Society or Sierra Club or something, at least once every week or so, to clean out cages or trails or whatever the group does.
- Start playing a co-ed sport; sign up for a team at the rec center or go to http://www.upa.org/ and find your local Ultimate Frisbee organization.
There's additional stuff in the book as well that I think is even more effective that I'm still writing up.
That's all,
Solveig
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[ January 13, 2003: Message edited by: Solveig Haugland ]
 
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Originally posted by Solveig Haugland:
- Put up a big Russian or Chinese alphabet poster on your hall-facing cube wall (if you can come up with a reason for it to be there, like you took Russian once and are trying to get into it again, or something). Or post something along those lines, big and unusual and interesting. (If there are women anywhere in the building where you work.)


I would advise to use some of communistic posters -- this should intrigue women.
- Are you communist?
- Why? Ah, this... No, it's just to attract women...
Here is one example of such poster, and at least two women participated in the discussion.
[ January 13, 2003: Message edited by: Mapraputa Is ]
 
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No, here is much more interesting Russian poster. Also with two women.
 
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That's a GREAT poster! [the first one, with the weird robot with braces.] Yes, absolutely, that's totally the kind of thing. Lends itself to good conversations. I shall include that in the book as an example, it's perfect.
You know, I finally understand Mulholland Drive, more or less. Ebert came to Boulder and did a frame by frame 4-day (2 hrs a day) group analysis, like he does of a movie every year, and it helped tremendously.
I think a poster of the actual sex scenes from Mulholland Drive would be better in the cube, though, and definitely lead to more threesomes than you know what to do with! ;>
[ January 13, 2003: Message edited by: Solveig Haugland ]
 
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Originally posted by Michael Matola:
No, here is much more interesting Russian poster. Also with two women.


Hollywood's propaganda! :roll:
Here is what Russian women really are.
 
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Originally posted by Mapraputa Is:

Hollywood's propaganda! :roll:
Here is what Russian women really are.


I don't like it!
Here are the two Russian women I like the most
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hmm, so you don't need a proof reader, do you?
 
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Well, no, I don't need a proofreader... ? ;>
I'm just looking for guys, of any single or married caliber at all actually, to test stuff for me. The stuff in the previous post.
- Get a bag of Valentine's colorfully wrapped chocolate kisses, or the Dove chocolate hearts, and put them in a bag on your desk. Count how many additional women come in your cube and talk to you each day.
- Ditto with homebaked cookies. Keep them in your cube or office, not out at the communal kitchen.
- Do the Talking By Listening approach: every day, whether it's your married project manager or the single uninteresting security guard at the front desk, take 5+ minutes and ask her about herself. See how long you can keep her talking about herself, about stuff you didn't know about her before.
- Go take a class in French or pottery or something like that and see how many interesting women are in the class, and make friends with them.
- Take a couple introductory horseback lessons and see how many interesting women are in the stables
- Take a couple introductory flying lessons, mention it at work or anywhere there are women, and see how many want you to take them for a ride
I just want to verify how well these things work, some of which are mainstream and some are a bit gimmicky. If you're married or dating and your SO is OK with it, that's great too.
If anyone tries any of these or if you want to try others or more, contact me at solveig@getopenoffice.org

Thanks
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