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Women need gal friends more than men need boy friends

 
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Consider the scenario: this couple who�ve been dating, decide to part. The guy goes home, broods awhile, opens a bag of chips and sits in front of the telly watching an old tennis match between two unknown Czechoslovakia�s.

GAL PALS ARE THE BEST MODELS:
Divya, Shravanti and Sanjana
The girl, on the other hand, still dazed at the loss of her Prince Charming, goes home, calls her closest (girl) friend and discusses ALL the events of the evening, dissecting every teeny-weeny detail. They will continue to painstakingly analyse the event with several other girl friends for weeks without let.
That�s how women are. They can talk for ages and never tire of a subject that captures their attention, be it the latest in nailpolish, that lovely recipe for palak paneer or just downright gossip. And here�s good news, ladies. You can continue gossiping to your heart�s content, because as studies now reveal, it�s good for health.
This getting together with your �gal-pals� does you a world of good in more ways than one. You have someone to talk to about your problems at home or work and someone to share your deep, dark secrets with. It relieves your stress and makes you feel light and unburdened.
Don�t all women just love hanging out with their girl friends and catching up with the latest! �Both my closest friends study abroad. When we meet, we talk about careers, future plans and maybe go for a movie. We just spend time together, and enjoy,� says actor Laya.
Says Aparna, an employee at GE Capital, �When you�re with really close friends, you don�t have to worry about what you�re saying. You know they won�t judge you. When you talk to a gal pal, it energises you and lifts your spirit sky high. Funny as it may seem, you don�t expect much from them either.�
�I�ve found that sharing feelings is the best way to unwind. Gossiping with girl friends gives me immense satisfaction and makes me feel light-hearted and fresh. I can tell them things I can�t tell my husband or parents or in-laws. The best thing is that you feel very close to the other person and happy that you have someone lending an ear,� feels P Sirisha, a housewife. She adds you can feel assured that they aren�t going to talk about you behind your back.
Psychiatrists will also tell you the same thing: talking things through with friends always helps. Dr A Shekhar Reddy, Consultant Psychiatrist at Yashoda Hospital, Somajiguda believes, �Talking brings out a lot that has been bothering you. It gives you relief and you learn from others� experiences. It also makes you feel comfortable knowing that you�re not the only one with problems.�
New research shows that women beat stress by being with their gal pals � the hormone oxytocin generates a �tend and befriend� response to stress, while in men increased levels of testosterone suppresses such effects of oxytocin.
So, with all these proven good effects of getting together with your gal pals, isn�t it time to plan that next kitty party?
How true this is isn't it?
 
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Originally posted by jyothi godavarthy:
... Gossiping with girl friends gives me immense satisfaction ... I can tell them things I can�t tell my husband or parents or in-laws...


How can you expect the husband/ parents/ in-laws to listen same stuff repeatedly with same enthusiasm?
(that too gossips realted to "Kapoor ji ki wife" or "Mehta ji ke Sasur" etc. etc. ... )
 
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Originally posted by Varun Khanna:

How can you expect the husband/ parents/ in-laws to listen same stuff repeatedly with same enthusiasm?
(that too gossips realted to "Kapoor ji ki wife" or "Mehta ji ke Sasur" etc. etc. ... )


Thats the difference, guys feel that wives repeat the stuff, but they don't listen peoperly enough to know the difference.
 
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Originally posted by jyothi godavarthy:
... guys feel that wives repeat the stuff, but they don't listen peoperly enough to know the difference ...


Thats understandable AFTER MARRIAGE, isn't?
 
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Originally posted by jyothi godavarthy:

Thats the difference, guys feel that wives repeat the stuff, but they don't listen peoperly enough to know the difference.


I advise you to read book "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus".
Do not ask me about the book, I did not read it.
 
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Originally posted by jyothi godavarthy:

Thats the difference, guys feel that wives repeat the stuff, but they don't listen peoperly enough to know the difference.


They do repeat.That is what my experience says.But one thing is true that female are full of energy.They never get tired while talking.(Exception : politician ).Female have tonnes of topics to talk about.They never have to think about topic.But we....??? Poor chaps...
[ February 03, 2004: Message edited by: himanshu patel ]
 
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Originally posted by himanshu patel:

I advise you to read book "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus".
Do not ask me about the book, I did not read it.


both of you need to read the book ..
I have also not read the book but then I also dont argue with women
 
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Originally posted by jyothi godavarthy:
Consider the scenario: this couple who�ve been dating, decide to part. The guy goes home, broods awhile, opens a bag of chips and sits in front of the telly watching an old tennis match between two unknown Czechoslovakia�s.

GAL PALS ARE THE BEST MODELS:
Divya, Shravanti and Sanjana
The girl, on the other hand, still dazed at the loss of her Prince Charming, goes home, calls her closest (girl) friend and discusses ALL the events of the evening, dissecting every teeny-weeny detail. They will continue to painstakingly analyse the event with several other girl friends for weeks without let.
That�s how women are. They can talk for ages and never tire of a subject that captures their attention, be it the latest in nailpolish, that lovely recipe for palak paneer or just downright gossip. And here�s good news, ladies. You can continue gossiping to your heart�s content, because as studies now reveal, it�s good for health.
This getting together with your �gal-pals� does you a world of good in more ways than one. You have someone to talk to about your problems at home or work and someone to share your deep, dark secrets with. It relieves your stress and makes you feel light and unburdened.
Don�t all women just love hanging out with their girl friends and catching up with the latest! �Both my closest friends study abroad. When we meet, we talk about careers, future plans and maybe go for a movie. We just spend time together, and enjoy,� says actor Laya.
Says Aparna, an employee at GE Capital, �When you�re with really close friends, you don�t have to worry about what you�re saying. You know they won�t judge you. When you talk to a gal pal, it energises you and lifts your spirit sky high. Funny as it may seem, you don�t expect much from them either.�
�I�ve found that sharing feelings is the best way to unwind. Gossiping with girl friends gives me immense satisfaction and makes me feel light-hearted and fresh. I can tell them things I can�t tell my husband or parents or in-laws. The best thing is that you feel very close to the other person and happy that you have someone lending an ear,� feels P Sirisha, a housewife. She adds you can feel assured that they aren�t going to talk about you behind your back.
Psychiatrists will also tell you the same thing: talking things through with friends always helps. Dr A Shekhar Reddy, Consultant Psychiatrist at Yashoda Hospital, Somajiguda believes, �Talking brings out a lot that has been bothering you. It gives you relief and you learn from others� experiences. It also makes you feel comfortable knowing that you�re not the only one with problems.�
New research shows that women beat stress by being with their gal pals � the hormone oxytocin generates a �tend and befriend� response to stress, while in men increased levels of testosterone suppresses such effects of oxytocin.
So, with all these proven good effects of getting together with your gal pals, isn�t it time to plan that next kitty party?
How true this is isn't it?


I can get an idea from this post
 
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what is that idea Sameer??

Originally posted by Sameer Jamal:

I can get an idea from this post

 
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Originally posted by R K Singh:

both of you need to read the book ..
I have also not read the book but then I also dont argue with women


 
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Originally posted by sunitha raghu:


I was talking about women, not about my sweet ex
 
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Originally posted by R K Singh:

both of you need to read the book ..
I have also not read the book but then I also dont argue with women


yeah soon I am going to read it.
So do you mean only those can argue with women who have read this book?
 
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Originally posted by himanshu patel:
So do you mean only those can argue with women who have read this book?


dunno .. I heard that then you can understand woman
And when you understand then only you can argue
 
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Originally posted by sunitha raghu:
what is that idea Sameer??


That�s how women are. They can talk for ages and never tire of a subject that captures their attention
 
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Originally posted by R K Singh:

dunno .. I heard that then you can understand woman
And when you understand then only you can argue


Do you think is it really possible to understand women?Our history
says (Right from Ramayana and Mahabharat) no one could really understand women. .
 
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Originally posted by himanshu patel:
Do you think is it really possible to understand women?Our history
says (Right from Ramayana and Mahabharat) no one could really understand women. .


Yes, I know this thats why I never studied
But these westerner are quite new as compare to us and still in the learning phase so it will take time for them to learn that none can understand woman.
 
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Originally posted by himanshu patel:

Do you think is it really possible to understand women?Our history
says (Right from Ramayana and Mahabharat) no one could really understand women. .


Behind Ramayana as well as Mahabharata it was women only
 
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Originally posted by R K Singh:

Yes, I know this thats why I never studied
But these westerner are quite new as compare to us and still in the learning phase so it will take time for them to learn that none can understand woman.


 
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Originally posted by Varun Khanna:

Behind Ramayana as well as Mahabharata it was women only


Not only Ramayana and mahabharata,behind everything there is a women.
 
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Originally posted by himanshu patel:

Not only Ramayana and mahabharata,behind everything there is a women.


You won't find a women behind (or anyway near) a board displaying "Keep Silence" text
 
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Originally posted by R K Singh:

Yes, I know this thats why I never studied
But these westerner are quite new as compare to us and still in the learning phase so it will take time for them to learn that none can understand woman.


OR
Would it be because Indian men still look for their mother in their women ( tied to their apron strings or whatever the equivalent is - the closest thing I can think of is tying the sari while keeping 3 steps behind at a wedding ceremony ), while western men leave the mothers apron strings quite early on. The wife on becoming a mother ties the knot to the first-born son. Not that I am being derogative. I think it's a great wealth creating mechanism - the Victorians used to do it - When the first-born son looks like doing something useful for the family (extended) the knot is loosened a little.
There's no need to look at the Elizabeth Hursley - Arun Nayar liaison - his mother's German. Or maybe Elizabeth Hursley looks like a German HausFrau to him ?
Westerners have been too taken up with liberation but are now redressing the balance. Western women could be having children twice in their lifetimes - in their 20s and 50s - but the social structure isn't in place yet.
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Originally posted by R K Singh:

dunno .. I heard that then you can understand woman
And when you understand then only you can argue


If you can understand women ...then you would feel like arguing is useless....
 
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