Satyaprakash Joshii wrote:This one seems the most important step for me. I will focus and start doing this.
The mental shift you need to make is accepting the fact that software development is a journey of discovery. As you learn and discover new things, new questions will come up that you could not have predicted before. Learn to be OK with this. It's an iterative process and as such, you can't just get everything right at one go. Continuous frequent feedback as you iterate through the learning process is necessary to get things right. It's not about getting things right the first time, it's about getting it right in the end.
When in the adhoc meeting it was said to do this and that and this way and that way, I said my understanding is this (based on what I could remember from what was told to me by him few seconds back). After this also I note this understanding as I myself may forget.
For this I am having to push myself to understand/clarify synchronously (then and there itself ) instead of asynchronous (later taking sweet time to analyze and understand ).
Also, I realized that procastination is one of my bad habbits. I need to push myself to analyse/clarify things now itself.
Although the post was for software development, for me the advice given in this forum is useful in everyday life too.
I was having this bad habbit of hearing the other person and not confirming my understanding then and there itself (in case of something which I do not understand ), and used to think I will analyse this later on in my sweet time and understand. This is not limited to office but life too.I realized you can't be in a fully asynhronous communication mode in life.
Basically, I became from asynchronous to synchrous in life after this thread. I am very thankful to Junilu and others for helping me change my habbit.
Junilu Lacar wrote:
You: "Ok, this what I understood... explain in your own words what you think the other person said"
Have tried to implement this and it is definitely effective.
One way I initially tried is to listen to what the other person said and explain in my own words.
Later I felt a better way is to while listening write some rough points on a notebook using pen about what other person said and then use those short handwritten notes to explain in own words what he said.
Now, I felt that an even better way is to keep one small notepad open on your laptop, and type some very short notes while the other person is speaking, and then use it to explain in own words what he said.
Between the second the third approach the difference I have seen is that the third approach enables a more cleaner thought process than the second in my case.