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Originally posted by Arjun Shastry:
After horoscope match(See the horoscope thread by Helen Thomas
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Originally posted by Damanjit Kaur:
Go for love marriage. It never gets into my head how can one decide about a life term commitment within 45-90 minutes, no matter how many questions you ask.
Originally posted by Arjun Shastry:
So what are the questions that should be asked?
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- Varun
I've heard it takes forever to grow a woman from the ground
Originally posted by Nick George:
This is where I find it hard to be culturally sensitive. Arranged marriages seem so fundementally wrong to me.
Originally posted by Damanjit Kaur:
Go for love marriage. It never gets into my head how can one decide about a life term commitment within 45-90 minutes, no matter how many questions you ask.
Damanjit Kaur :
there are compromises and sacrifices on one partner's side and they continue with that till the end because divorces are frowned upon in our society.
"Thanks to Indian media who has over the period of time swiped out intellectual taste from mass Indian population." - Chetan Parekh
Originally posted by K Varun:
I remember a guy who came with a page having 15-20 questions. He took the girl to some other table (they all met in a restaurant) and started asking questions one by one (with paper in hand)![]()
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[ January 30, 2005: Message edited by: K Varun ]
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Originally posted by Arjun Shastry:
Two months back,girl's father arrived in my house,and started asking the questions and then wrote down the answers given by me on a paper.Girl was out of town so this was preliminary round!
What are the questions which should be asked so that I can guess her thinking pattern?or its impossible? I am tired of asking the questions like ,1)What do you for work,your hobbies,your future plans etc.I can not at all guage whether girl speking truth or hiding something bcos of parental pressure.
[ January 30, 2005: Message edited by: Arjun Shastry ]
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Originally posted by Jeroen Wenting:
Where are the days when a marriage would be arranged directly after birth?
Originally posted by Arjun Shastry:
I am tired of asking the questions like ,1)What do you for work,your hobbies,your future plans etc.I can not at all guage whether girl speking truth or hiding something bcos of parental pressure.
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"God who creates and is nature is very difficult to understand, but he is not arbitrary or malicious." OR "God does not play dice." - Einstein
Originally posted by Helen Thomas:
Are you allowed to take her out a couple of times to see if you enjoy each others company ?
[ January 31, 2005: Message edited by: Helen Thomas ]
MH
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"God who creates and is nature is very difficult to understand, but he is not arbitrary or malicious." OR "God does not play dice." - Einstein
R.K. Singh
How much time you think is required to decide for life term commitment. Some options are
1 month
6 month
1 year
3 year
Jeroen Wenting
you mean the prospective couple is now involved actively in the proceedings?
Where are the days when a marriage would be arranged directly after birth?
Originally posted by Damanjit Kaur:
Its the western media that is to be blamed. They keep showing all the time just the poverty of asian countries and nothing else.(I am unable to make out about the intentions of western media- Do they want to show pity on poor people or they want to help them by showing their miseries to the West.)
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Originally posted by Jeroen Wenting:
My REAL surprise is that arranged marriages are apparently still widespread at all, I guess you didn't understand my maybe somewhat sarcastic response as intended![]()
"Thanks to Indian media who has over the period of time swiped out intellectual taste from mass Indian population." - Chetan Parekh
Originally posted by Damanjit Kaur:
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Its the western media that is to be blamed. They keep showing all the time just the poverty of asian countries and nothing else.(I am unable to make out about the intentions of western media- Do they want to show pity on poor people or they want to help them by showing their miseries to the West.) Few days back I was seeing on TV5 channel a documentary about a poor man riding rickshaw in the Inner circle of Connaught Place(in New Delhi). Thruout the movie they just kept focused very closely on the foot or face of that poor man showing his misery. Now my Indian friends living in New Delhi can easily guess how old that documentary might be, because the rickshaw pullers were forbidden to ride in C.P. long time back.
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"God who creates and is nature is very difficult to understand, but he is not arbitrary or malicious." OR "God does not play dice." - Einstein
Helen Thomas :
Bollywood films are known to go the other extreme and create gods from mere mortals.
Jeroen: My REAL surprise is that arranged marriages are apparently still widespread at all, I guess you didn't understand my maybe somewhat sarcastic response as intended
Originally posted by kayal cox:
I have somehow felt that the tolerance levels in indians are generally higher,
- Varun
Originally posted by kayal cox:
It's a system that works,
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Helen: Microsoft is a system that works but a high tolerance level is required. Leaves one feeling very needy!
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Originally posted by Arjun Shastry:
What are the questions which should be asked so that I can guess her thinking pattern?or its impossible?
- Varun
Originally posted by K Varun:
You will rarely hear any divorce case in any Indian village whereas in metros it's rising.
"Thanks to Indian media who has over the period of time swiped out intellectual taste from mass Indian population." - Chetan Parekh
Originally posted by Arjun Shastry:
. Not in arranged marriages.You can talk twice,at the most thrice to each other.
"Thanks to Indian media who has over the period of time swiped out intellectual taste from mass Indian population." - Chetan Parekh
Originally posted by R K Singh:
Can you provide a word in any Indian language equivalent to 'divorce'.![]()
The only word I know is 'Talaq', but then its a Urdu word.
MH
Originally posted by kayal cox:
Helen: Microsoft is a system that works but a high tolerance level is required. Leaves one feeling very needy!
For starters, the validity of this statement is quite debatable (which is a whole new topic in itself)![]()
And then, even if we did accept it to be a valid statement, I am not sure it is an comparable analogy at all![]()
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Originally posted by R K Singh:
Can you provide a word in any Indian language equivalent to 'divorce'.![]()
The only word I know is 'Talaq', but then its a Urdu word.
Joy is a radiation
Originally posted by R K Singh:
I think whether its love or arrange, whatever be the case some adjustment(call it sacrifice) has to be made.
But I do agree, divorce should not be treated as taboo on anyone, Alas.. that is true here![]()
There will be glitches in my transition from being a saloon bar sage to a world statesman. - Tony Banks
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