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how to control high anger

 
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hi ranchers

IN everyone 's life , sometimes bad situation comes ,
i want to asked u all
how to control high anger
tell your views
[ November 13, 2005: Message edited by: manis yadav ]
 
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By understanding that if you're getting angry often, the disturbance is inside.

- Manish
 
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If you have an opportunity to attend "The Art of Living - Basic Course", do so. It is very effective.
 
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"The Art of Living - Basic Course",



This course is now become more of a glamour than what it is supposed to be!!! With filmstars, politicians and other top notch people attending it,
its become highly commercialised and has lost its basic purpose!!!
Try meditation everyday morning , its the best way out!!

-----Shankar----
 
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Originally posted by Jaya Nettem:
If you have an opportunity to attend "The Art of Living - Basic Course", do so. It is very effective.


Only the first two days of the course is good, when you learn praanayama and Sudarshan Kriya. The next 4 days are for 'satsang' and practising the sudarshan kriya. The fee they charge is too high.
 
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Always carry bottle of cold water with you.While talking to anybody,handover the bottle to them and request them to pour it on your head if you get angry.
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Originally posted by shankar Iyer:
This course is now become more of a glamour than what it is supposed to be!!! With filmstars, politicians and other top notch people attending it,
its become highly commercialised and has lost its basic purpose!!!
Try meditation everyday morning , its the best way out!!
-----Shankar----



I agree with you.
Why they are charing money for it?
Hey have open a school in my home town, and they are charging so high fees.
 
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Originally posted by Chetan Parekh:


I agree with you.
Why they are charing money for it?
Hey have open a school in my home town, and they are charging so high fees.



And that makes you highly angry eh??

 
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Originally posted by manis yadav:
hi ranchers

IN everyone 's life , sometimes bad situation comes ,
i want to asked u all
how to control high anger
tell your views



Play video games, or walk around Best Buy for an hour.

(although lately the numerous clerks at Best Buy's I've never even been to before have been eyeing me like a piece of meat whenever I look at something over $20, so this actually increases anger sometimes... I think they over-hired their staff)
 
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Originally posted by manis yadav:
hi ranchers

IN everyone 's life , sometimes bad situation comes ,
i want to asked u all
how to control high anger
tell your views

[ November 13, 2005: Message edited by: manis yadav ]



I guess letting off some steam is not that bad as it is made out to be and whatever anyone says anger is one of the most basic of human emotions. it is impossible to control it... its like asking can I stop loving?
Only make sure that once you have shouted the house down, have the manners to go and genuinely apologize for your behavior and the person who got the stick may not mind. If the person does mind give it to him again

The best way to control anger is get it out of the system at a stage where all that is required is a maybe a couple of statements in �caps�.
 
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A friend of mine said she would type out an email pouring forth all her ire and indignation, and then NOT send it to the target recipient. That would let her give a vent to her anger and still channelize it into less disastrous channels. I haven;t tried that, you may want to..
 
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I often find the key to avoiding getting very angry is to apply some perspective to the situation.

The first step is to take a deep breath and pause for a second. That reduces the chance of letting a comment slip out which I would regret as soon as I've said it. It seems to me that a lot of what people say in the heat of the moment isn't actually meant, but is just the product of rather too much emotion welling up. Taking a second before replying can help against this - its far easier not to say something then to unsay something!

The second step is to get some personal perspective. Think about your life as an entire object, and compare the problem to it. Is this particular issue really that important? Often people get angry about relatively trivial things. Consider for a moment if you will even remember the incident in a couple of years time. Perhaps its not that important after all.

The third step is to get some perspective in comparison to the rest of humanity. Compared to the problems that 99% of the world have, I consider my problems to be very small. There's something almost ungrateful about getting stressed over a Null Pointer Exception when there's people struggling every day to find enough food to eat. Given how tough and truly stressful life is for most people in the world (and everyone on this site is privileged compared to the average person in the world), life seems pretty amazing. It becomes hard to stay stressed when considering how lucky you really are.

The fourth step is to remember that its often not worth the bother of getting stressed in the first place. Becoming angry takes up a lot of energy - going bright red, frowning and shouting is quite tiring, and often doesn't really bring much of an advantage. Often there is a more efficient way of sorting out a problem then getting angry. In fact getting angry could well make the situation harder to sort out. The key here is that I'm very lazy, and most of the time I can't be bothered with getting too angry!

The final optional step is to get some perspective on a universal scale. We live in a tiny film of gas smeared across a small speck of crud left over from the birth of a fairly mediocre star which is one among billions in this galaxy, which itself in turn among billions of other galaxies. On that kind of scale, just about every issue we have is trivial in the extreme.
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Besides, there's almost a vast amount of power in calmness. Take a moment to hold in a deep breath. While holding it in, picture an area of complete calm within yourself. Then slowly let the breath out and at the same time feel the calmness spread around yourself. In that moment you can almost feel how everything is just slightly easier then in the more stressful moment before the deep breath. It may not seem like power in the conventional sense, but something which can make the entire universe seem slightly less daunting has got to be quite powerful

Must be an oxygen high or something.
 
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Originally posted by Dave Lenton:
I often find the key to avoiding getting very angry is to apply some perspective to the situation.

The first step is to take a ...........
The second step is to get some ..........
The third step is to get ........ .
The fourth step is to ........
The final optional step is ..........

[ November 14, 2005: Message edited by: Dave Lenton ]



I usually lose it between step 2 and 3 and by the time I get to the optional step level I usually have a flower pot stuck upside down on my head, which takes care of the person I have ticked off coz by the end of the countdown both of us are usually in splits
 
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When ever you get angry try to laugh Loudly !!!

or Play video games or Try to teach some of your favourites subjects to some one you'll definitely get cooled !!
 
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Just close your eyes.

Concentrate on breathe and count 25-24-23-22-21-...1 in the mind.
 
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Don't call me ribald, but try this.



Think of your favorite steamy scene. Anger will be replaced by other stronger feelings
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Originally posted by Chetan Parekh:
Just close your eyes.

Concentrate on breathe and count 25-24-23-22-21-...1 in the mind.



Gooood idea.
 
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Originally posted by Srinivasa Raghavan:
When ever you get angry try to laugh Loudly !!!

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i think this is good idea
 
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Originally posted by harish goyal:



i think this is good idea



Like the Chief doctor in Munnabhai MBBS
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