If you have a properly written table model, then it will automatically refresh the view (the JTable) when it is modified. I believe the DefaultTableModel does that, for example. Of course you would have to delete the row from the table model, and you didn't say you were doing that. A description of the problem would be helpful (and pay attention to Darryl Burke's suggestions too).
You'll need to fire the proper events for TableModelListeners. DefaultTableModel does that for you; if you extend AbstractTableModel you can call one of the fireXXX methods when you modify the contents of the model.