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The sadness of resignation

 
Dhaval J. Patel
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Howdy folks,

I just got a job offer. Will be joining an awesome company by the end of this month. This would be my second job and the first time I am resigning from a company.

My current company is sort of small, very small. Everyone knows each other and company sort of depends on how each worker does. Its been around an year now. I am working on a couple of projects in which no one else has a clue about. I feel a little bad that once I leave the project is going to be dead. I have this guilt of disappointing my current employer. However I will always be there if they need me, over the weekends or any other time. But I still have this guilty/sad feeling. A few of my seniors have great hopes with the projects I was doing, but its all going to fall apart.

How do I get rid of this feeling ? It is bugging me really. I should be happy instead as I got a fantastic offer from an awesome company. How to move on ??? Can people share their experiences or any tips?
 
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I think it's natural. You spend as much (or more) time with your coworkers as your family. Unless you hate them, then of course you'll miss them when you change jobs. However, changing jobs is part of any career, and especially software. Have lunch with them sometimes and catch up. Don't volunteer to work evenings and weekends for them though. They'll survive without you, and your responsibility is now to your new company and your own life.
 
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When you leave, go out for some beers with your current folks. Celebrate the good times. Drink to future great endevors.

Then, when you get to your new place, if they are hiring, go back and hire the best of the folks at the old company.

 
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Greg Charles wrote: They'll survive without you, and your responsibility is now to your new company and your own life.

I can't say more than this ! think of it is a new release of your xyz use.
 
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Pat Farrell wrote:go back and hire the best of the folks at the old company.

Personally I dont do that ..ya if A from other and B is my former company employee, I select B as a technical person if and only if A equals B
 
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Seetharaman Venkatasamy wrote:Personally I dont do that ..ya if A from other and B is my former company employee, I select B as a technical person if and only if A equals B

Its a personal call, so what you do is fine with me.

But for me, when I've worked with B and know their skills and know that they can do the job that I have today, today without any confusion or training, they are automatically ahead of some A that I only know from a resume or CV

A huge part of being an effective team member is communications. WIth B, I know already that I can communicate with them.
 
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I've been working for 17 years, and I'm on my 6th job. The pang that you feel while putting your resignation letter never goes away. It's something that you have to close your eyes and just do it. I have always sent my resignation letter after 6 pm, so I could run away without anyone confronting me. Even when I (tried to) resign from the worst job I ever had, I felt guilty.

 
Dhaval J. Patel
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Thank you the replies folks.

It helps. But now when I have calmed down about leaving my current company, I am freaking out about how the new company would be like. I have never worked for such a big company before.

Ugh. This transition period is killing my brain instead of making me happy
 
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It's been almost 5 months on. How's the new job going?
 
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Also saw a random blog post on this topic. Surely we are not the only ones!

http://stargazerxnebula.blogspot.co.uk/2012/09/the-intense-sadness-from-job-resignation.html
 
Dhaval J. Patel
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Its going good mate. Still in my probation period though. But I think I'll get through it with ease.
 
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Keep in touch with your current colleagues via LinkedIn and regular catch ups over lunch/coffee/tea.
 
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