posted 9 years ago
I feel your pain. My wife is at least that shy. We'd been serving this one church for 15 years, when the phone rings during worship. Wife answered the phone, and had to deliver a message to a woman in the choir. Remembr, we'd been there 15 years, we knew everyone there, she was friends with mos of the women. So, she walks up the side aisle, delivers the message, begins to walk back. Less than halfway, she runs to the ladies room and vomits.
I, on the other hand, have no problem talking to anyone anywhere anytime. But I will offer som small advice that will most likely prove to be difficult to follow.
Fist, Finding a group like toastmasters is a good suggestion. It sounds to me as if you are still in school or at university. In the states, universities offer classes that provide similar opportunities. In my locale they are referred to as oral communications. I would start my search there. Your advisor should be able to you started. The advantage to this is you will be with peers, other students and people you know. This would likely ease some of the pressure.
Secondly, stop thinking of them as girls. Sounds like a stupid statement. Humankind, for some reason that remains a mystery, is driven to put everything into categories. We refer to the first black doctor, or the first woman judge, etc. We, as in humans as a whole, do not see them as doctor, or judge. They must be forced into some category. But if you can look beyond the category, male, female, Indian, Pakistani, American, and so forth, the there is no reason to fear. They become "just people" like me.
Anyway, best of luck in all your endeavors.
Regards,
Robert
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