for long time i was trying to find software engineering forums. Let me put it this way, software development process goes through inception, elaboration, construction, testing and maintenance. when you browse you would find millions for construction phase. But what about the other steps, the actual development cannot be started without an inception phase and serious projects cannot started without an elaboration phase. but i couldn't find any forums for those, specially to talk about software engineering issues and philosophical aspects of it. Could any one recommend online discussion forums for those? (this must be language independent)
please do not quote "stack overflow" because at the moment i'm sick of their rigid rules : (
You can post questions about those topics in our Agile and other Processes forum. It's ok to talk about non-agile process or other process related topics in there. That's one of our few language independent forums.
And you are correct that "having a discussion" isn't likely to go well on Stack Overflow. They focus on Q&A.