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I recently noticed that I don't have the emotions others can have. I was very close to my grandpa, and when he passed away, my whole family was in tears. But I just... didn't feel anything. My eyes didn't even well up.

Don't get me wrong. I do care about people who are unfortunate. Ex cancer .I want to help because I feel this is what should be done. Like, if a cancer patient dies, I feel this is our fault for not progressing in medicine, but I just dont feel like crying like others do.

Am I too cold?

My brother always keeps talking about our old neighborhood, but it just never crosses my mind. I never missed our old home or neighborhood or school like he does.

I just never miss others or ever think about old memories.I don't have the drive to think about my self either. I just feel the drive to do things that should be done .Is there anyone out there like me?


 
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It is not not normal. Back in college, I feel 90% of software engineer students are like that, even the girls. So, thats pretty normal. But I have changed since I get am a lot older now. BTW, how old are you?

 
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Yes, I'm like that too. But don't let people tell you that you are "weird" because of that. And as for "normal" -- everybody is abnormal in some way. Maybe those people who are wailing and tearing their hair look at you and think "He's not like me", but then you look at those people and think "They aren't like me" too. There's room for all kinds of people in the world. Except psychopaths, we could use a lot less psychopaths in the world.
 
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By the way the polite term for this way of life is "Stoic" and there was a whole school of Greek philosophers who followed it.
 
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Fei Ng wrote:It is not not normal. Back in college, I feel 90% of software engineer students are like that, even the girls. So, thats pretty normal. But I have changed since I get am a lot older now. BTW, how old are you?


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Paul Clapham wrote:By the way the polite term for this way of life is "Stoic" and there was a whole school of Greek philosophers who followed it.


I just googled this term. I feels nice to know that here are others who think like me
 
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Not at all "weird" IMO. I have seen deaths in my family, but never cried. No need to tell I was very upset, but tears did not come.
I had tears in my eyes while watching some movies like Pursuit of happyness and many more.
 
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Ahmad Auada wrote:

Paul Clapham wrote:By the way the polite term for this way of life is "Stoic" and there was a whole school of Greek philosophers who followed it.


I just googled this term. I feels nice to know that here are others who think like me


Reddit has at least two subs dedicated to stoicism. You might want to check them out. You'll find a lot of kindred spirits.
 
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