Welcome to the JavaRanch, Mimi!
We do not have many rules here, but one of the few ones we insist on is that you do not use a real name, not a nickname, alias or "handle". If you're not sure about this, see
http://www.javaranch.com/name.jsp .
The secret of how to be miserable is to constantly expect things are going to happen the way that they are "supposed" to happen.
You can have faith, which carries the understanding that you may be disappointed. Then there's being a willfully-blind idiot, which virtually guarantees it.